Thursday, 6 November 2014

The Curvy Girl's Dress Debarkle

I have a big event on Sunday. The MTV EMA's, to be precise. All of my time blogging I've watched enviously as other 'big' bloggers got invited to these things, riled with jealousy that it isn't me. And now that I've been invited to one? Naturally I'm delighted. But I've also worked myself up into a frenzy over what I'm going to wear, so much so that I came home from work to break down in tears because I feel so stressed about it - pretty crappy, right?!

I don't go to events often. Whilst I used to be a 'one night out a week' kinda gal, now I prefer staying in and big nights out partying on a regular basis just don't appeal to me. That's not to say I'm ungrateful for any 'night out' invitations I do get - just that I haven't done the whole 'get an outfit for the big night out' thing in, well, years.

And over the past few years things have changed. My once size ten figure is now a fourteen, and I feel crap about it. If you read this post here, you'll know what I'm on about. It's horrendous after never, ever worrying about what I 'can' or 'can't' wear, but simply picking up whichever dress I liked best and whacking it on, that I'm faced with a million different obstacles, now I'm a 'bigger' girl.

I can't go sleeveless - my arms are too big. Can't wear a bodycon, nobody wants to see that. Backless is out of the question - back-flab definitely isn't in. Can't be too short; my thighs are too wobbly, and I can't go too long either, I'd look frumpy. Basically, when it comes to picking a dress for a party now, I'm absolutely screwed.

When I first got into fashion, I was really thin, and questioning whether something would suit my body shape or not never crossed my mind - as it turns out, most things suited my childlike body type. Now I'm stumbling over a million different hurdles trying to find a dress that I'll actually feel even the slightest bit confident in for one whole night.

The blogging side of things makes it suck even more too. Putting on weight when you get sent samples regularly isn't fun - especially when you realise you're kidding yourself asking for that size twelve frock. And then the fourteen comes, and it doesn't fit either; 'But you don't go bigger than a fourteen? Oh, nevermind then.'

Or when you convince yourself that you will fit into that size twelve in a couple of weeks, so you may as well keep it, only to be hounded by the brand who sent you it. You feel like screaming 'I'm sorry, I'm too fat for your dress, but I won't be in a few weeks, I promise!'

So I'm sitting here, scrolling through various clothing websites, desperately trying to find something that won't make me look like a whale come the 'big night'. I want to get a feel for what it'll look like on, so I look at the models on the websites, or else search for bloggers who might have worn it. And what am I faced with? A million slender girls looking stunning in even more stunning dresses. And I know that there's no way in hell I'll look like that in them, so is there any point looking?!

So, who knows what I'll wear on Sunday night, but hopefully I'll be wearing a smile. Does anyone else ever feel like this? I never knew what people meant when they said they couldn't wear certain clothes - and now I know all too well!


  1. Hannah I can totally relate to you, I can. I have gone from a size 8/10 to a full 12 in a very short amount of time. But like I was saying on Twitter, you DON’T have to be slim to be beautiful. Yes, the blogging industry can be tough and pressured. But look at Louise from Sprinkle Of Glitter and all those uber curvy celebrities. I struggle like you, unsure of what to wear, but have found the outfits that suit my shape and these uber slim bloggers, don’t represent everyone! In fact they probably don’t even represent half of us. You represent what I stand for, you’re relatable. Don’t ever let your size stop you from doing what you love and stop you from going to events. I do hope you find something that makes you feel as beautiful on the inside, as you look on the outside. Emily xx

  2. Oh lovely, I hate to see you, or anyone, get upset about stuff like this - but I know I've felt it too not being a lanky size 8 with perfectly coiffed hair - but you are such a lovely wonderful girl! I've been having the same debacle about what to wear on Sunday, but instead of paining over it, I'm just gonna screw it and wear something old I love - who cares?! Really hope I bump into you sweetness x

  3. I spent most of my life as a size 18 and it was very very difficult to find anything that suited me! I've now slimmed down to a size 10/12 and learnt many lessons along the way. Firstly it's possible to dress any figure in a flattering way, just work with what you have got, not what you haven't and then walk proud! I actually really loved my body when I hit size 14, it's an absolutely gorgeous size - looking curvy and healthy

  4. I can't say I know the feeling but I want you to know that you're totally gorgeous and the dress you're actually wearing suits you amazingly. I know you're going to find the perfect dress for that night, remember you're going to one of the events you wished for a long time, it's a great opportunity so don't pressure yourself on the clothing since you're naturally beautiful. I want a post on your outfit I'm sure you're gonna look stunning! ;) Enjoy your time sweetheart xx

    Mary Bloomy

  5. I personally think that you are absolutely beautiful and you have nothing to worry about. I am sure that every sane person will agree with me. You can look gorgeous at any size. I follow a variety of blogs - some written by very thin girls, some by plus size girls. I see size 20 babes rocking a bodycon and looking stunning, because they have the perfect hourglass figure, while I look like a sausage and wouldn't dream of wearing a bodycon without shapewear.

    Just like you, I don't like my arms. I also hate my post-baby tummy. Instead of worrying about it, I avoid clothes that accentuate the parts of my body I dislike. And you know what? Sometimes I look in the mirror and think - I look good in this! It's all about being comfortable. I actually want to be a size 12-14 and I think it is perfect. Obviously, some might think differently.

    In my lifetime, I was a size 8 and even a 24, but I was the happiest and healthiest as a 12-14. I am sure that many girls look at you and think - I wish I looked like Hannah. I would do anything to have your figure right now. Don't feel down about yourself. YOU ARE GORGEOUS!

  6. I think you're gorgeous, hon. I totally feel you on the gaining weight issue. I packed on a lot of weight in the past year and it's so sad to see something that once fit so nicely not wear the same. I love the dress you're wearing in this post, it suits you so nicely! The thing with clothes is, you'll always find something that you don't think suits you that really does. I hated circle skirts for the longest time because I thought my thighs were too big, but now they're my favourite thing to wear! Don't let the size get you down, gorgeous!

  7. I often find it hard to find something that 'suits' me, I have a longer body and shorter legs which makes certain dresses etc. hard to wear! You are beautiful and I'm sure you will find a dress for your big event! :) xx

  8. Congratulations on being invited to the MTV European Music Awards in Glasgow! I've read that Nicki Minaj is hosting. Im sure you'll look gorgeous no matter what outfit you decide to wear. I think you look very pretty as a size 14. The dress you're wearing in the photograph above is beautiful!. I love the colour and that of your lipstick. You look fabulous.
    I hope you enjoy your time there seeing the stars and hearing all of that great music live and in person.

  9. Even though I could never be classed as curvy I still find so many clothes that just do not fit. Its a miracle any girl manages it really. But I am sure you'll look stunning regardless, try and enjoy the event!

    Annabel ♥
    Mascara & Maltesers

  10. dont call yourself a whale , you are gorgeous and you look great with dresses ! you will certainly found something beautiful :)

  11. You're absolutely gorgeous. You should not at all feel like you do. I know for a fact you're probably going to look totally fabulous and get papped wearing something amazing. Hope you have a fab time and can't wait to hear about it xxx:o)

  12. I personally love my size 16/18 figure and I can always find something pretty to wear in Primark! They have some lovely dresses In at the moment :) as for you, I've said it before and I'll say it again - I think you're gorgeous! I can see though in some of your outfit posts of late that you don't come across entirely happy with yourself. Don't forget Xmas is around the corner, you have a whole new year to get back into the size you want to be... Try not to stress over it too much, it's the worst thing. The more you think of food and dieting the more you eat (in my experience anyway) ... Good luck finding an outfit xx


  13. I love this post, you should feel good whatever size, even as a size 8/10 I look at things and things i find companies make clothes for people with boobs! has i've always been small I've just never had that! I feel like there making clothes now for size 8 DD models, not the average girl, it's a nightmare shopping at any size these days, but your right as long as your siling enjoying your night and having fun with friends who cares.


  14. I understand how you feel. I've been there - size 8/10 up to 14. Every single one of the dress obstacles you mention I have faced, and it is crap. However you have a stunning face and lovely hair. You really do. If I were you, I would keep it low-key on the dress front (black simple shift, probably) and make sure your accessories are looking amazing. Maybe a stud theme as it's the MTV awards? I don't know how dressy or trendy you need to be, but I would probably wear a black shift, black tights and a black leather jacket with something like an electric blue clutch and nails to give it a pop. Not too many accessories, probably a black studded cuff. Meanwhile, I know this isn't a great thing to hear, but if you are unhappy with your size, then take action to change it. I spent too long feeling sad about my size and I avoided some great occasions because of it too. I remember some occasions mainly for how much I disliked what I was wearing due to my body shape, instead of enjoying the event. That's not how I want to remember life... I hated not being able to choose dresses because I really liked them but only because they didn't show too much arm/leg/back fat etc. So I know how you feel. But if you don't like what you see, then you can change it. Every journey starts with a single step. Have a wonderful time at the MTV awards and make sure you tell us all about it x

  15. I have a big night out planned on Saturday for my friends birthday, and wearing a proper 'going out' outfit for me is rare. I've struggled for weeks trying to find something to wear! I found a sequin dress today that I love. It's way too short though and I'm going to feel paranoid all night. To make matters worse, I had to buy it in a size 16, because I'm not a size 12 anymore :( So I know how you feel xx

  16. I think you look fab and I wouldn't say your figure is anything but lovely. It's better to embrace what you have rather than wish your life away in search of something else. I'm a size 14 too (and always have been in my adult years apart from one summer as a size 12 when I was 18). A lot of it is about how you carry yourself, and lots of outfits need curves to fill them out! x


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